Monthly Archives: April 2013

New Arrivals



*Ryan “Decklan” Mitchell – 8 lbs., 5 oz. – December 17, 2012
Benjamin MacNeill Massengale – 9 lbs., 1 oz. – January 17  
Corinne Alexandria Daniels – 6 lbs., 12 oz. – February 1
Seth Stillman Page – 10 lbs., 4 oz. – March 1
Evelyn Sperry Totz – 6 lbs., 4 oz. – March 2
Leo Walker Johnson – 7 lbs., 11 oz. – March 3
Ruth Grace Manetti – 8 lbs., 14 oz. – March 3
Sophie Caete Ingle – 6 lbs., 12 oz. – March 4
Brody Charles Wilk – 8 lbs., 13 oz. – March 4
Hannah Rose Forrest – 8 lbs., 4 oz. – March 5
Jayden James Janoff – 6 lbs., 11 oz. – March 6
Eleanor Howell – 7 lbs., 10 oz. – March 6
Norah Ellen Tomlin– 7 lbs., 13 oz. – March 7
Desmond Maxwell Champagne – March 8
Zoe June Johnson White – 8 lbs., 10 oz. – March 9
Rose St. John Torrey – 8 lbs. – March 11
Victoria Grace Alexander – 7 lbs., 10 oz. – March 13
Jessminda Rose Saxon – 8 lbs. – March 14
Christian – 8 lbs., 4 oz. – March 14
*Lydia Elizabeth Capps – 6 lbs., 12 oz. – March 17
Ella Katelyn Hilton – 6 lbs., 9 oz. – March 17th
Azalea Viviane Trimpi Seltman – 7 lbs., 2 oz. – March 19
Jacob Matthew Shilling – 9 lbs., 2 oz. – March 20
Adeline Mae Garrett – 7 lbs., 12 oz. – March 23
Slayden Lee Martinez – 7 lbs., 7 oz. – March 26
Evelynne Noelle Smith – March 27
Gaige Evan Earhart – 8 lbs., 6 oz. – March 25
Raina Willow Velazquez – 7 lbs., 13 oz. – March 27
Miriam JoAnn Keaton – 8 lbs., 3 oz. – March 29
Alyssa Grace Rodriguez – 8 lbs., 13 oz. – March 30
Molly Jean Amero – 7 lbs., 14 oz. – March 30


*pictured above


Welcome to the world, little ones!

If you would like your baby’s birth announced in the newsletter, send an email to missy_swanson@hotmail.com with baby’s name, date of birth, and weight. Feel free to include a picture!  We’d like to hear from all WBWC moms, whether you delivered at the birth center or UNC.




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Daisy’s Birth Story

by Tanya Bacon


7:30 AM on December 29, I woke up having to pee and experiencing a little contraction. No problem, I was used to it by that point. I got up, did my business, put some food in Tucker’s dish, and sat down to eat cereal and watch TV on the computer. I also got on Facebook to see that my baby application had updated on my page-“40 Weeks Today!” “Ugh. Mornin’ world,” I posted. I finished my cereal and decided to start revamping the birth bag. I got up and walked the 4 steps to the table where my paper was that had a list of what we needed…when my water started breaking. I grabbed my towel and waddled quickly to the bathroom carefully holding the towel to me so I didn’t “break” all over the carpet Keith had installed THE DAY BEFORE. When I got to the bathroom around 8 AM, I heard Keith waking up.

“I think my water just broke!” I yelled.
“Really?” he asked as he ran into the bathroom. “Are you ok?”
“NO!!!”

I felt an incredible urge to poop, but I couldn’t. I went from toilet to tub to toilet to floor to tub and back and forth for a while feeling so very uncomfortable and wondering why I couldn’t walk around. It was my understanding that I’d be able and wanting to walk around during the 1st stage of labor. During this time, Keith was calling my mom and the Birth Center, letting them know that my contractions were irregular and we weren’t sure how far apart–maybe 4-5 minutes? Every time I heard that, I’d scream, “Closer! Continuous!”

There really was no break in between. Alright, maybe a tiny one, but not much. Finally, Keith called the Birth Center and told them we were coming in NOW, and they agreed that was best. He called my mom and told her to meet us there instead of our house. He came in and said, “Tanya, after this one, you HAVE TO get up and we need to go!”

That is when I started frantically yelling for him to find things to bring with us (and we had just moved, so he didn’t know where anything was).

“Put Tucker in his cage!”
“I can’t find him!”

I looked behind the toilet where he had been hiding earlier-labor is scary! Nope, no Tucker dog.

“Check under the bed!” Yup.

I finally got the gumption to get up, barely put clothes and slippers on, and waddled my way quickly to the door. My eyes darted at things to grab on the way out, but I clung to my pillow instead and climbed into the car. The carseat was in the back now, so my seat could only go back so far. I ended up with one knee on the door and one hitting the shift. My oldest sister called Keith’s phone on the way-I think I freaked her out because I was in mid-contraction and screaming . I remember wanting to push a NOS button on the car and bypass the 10+ lights.

“Half way,” Keith told me.
“Great, then I might have the baby in the car!” I thought.

I still kept feeling that urge to poop. Finally, around 9:45 AM, we arrived. Keith let me out and helped me in-I’m not sure if he even parked the car really! A man held the door for us and BOOM! another contraction.

“Do you guys know where to go?” he asked.

We thought so, but he helped us as the midwives were coming out to meet us. We were escorted into the “extra” room because families were just leaving the other rooms and the midwives were quickly trying to clean them.

“WATER BIRTH!!!” I yelled.

They checked me-not very hard to do since I was pretty much stripping as I walked in. (It was chilly outside, but I was so hot and clothes were feeling SO uncomfortable!)

“Ok, she’s in 2nd stage and pushing!” I heard Emily, the midwife, say.
“So THAT’S why I wasn’t walking around!” I thought.

After a few pushes, the tub and room were clean, so we ended up waddling over to the other room. I just started going, not really knowing where to go, and Keith chased me with a blanket trying to keep me covered up. I didn’t care-I was in the zone and just wanted this baby OUT and in my arms! I kept reminding myself she’d be here soon and I wouldn’t have crazy charlie horses in my leg/hip or contractions anymore after that.

In the tub, the water was warm. I almost immediately felt more relaxed-well, as relaxed as you can feel in 2nd stage labor. The next little while was a whirlwind. The pressure built up more and more, but through it, I felt my little girl’s head more and more, too.

The “ring of fire” was terrible. I think because of the location of it, it was the worst pain I had ever felt. I felt like I was just going to rip apart. (I’m just being real with you, like the poop comments.)

In the end, this is how I remember it:

“Tanya, look at me! Next time you feel a contraction, PUSH!” Emily told me.So I did. Hard. In an instant, things almost went south. I had no idea why, nor was I frightened by it, but I was told to get up out of the tub and onto the bed. My husband, the midwife, and the nurse all lifted me up and helped me onto the bed. Apparently, I had a little baby head coming out during this.

I heard, “Call the midwife! Call for oxygen!” It got a little more frantic in the room for a minute. I made it onto the bed and thought, “I have to do this NOW or this is going to get bad!” I pushed once–maybe twice–and felt an enormous, almost gooey pressure leave my body. I looked down and saw the most purpley-gray baby with dark hair! She was screaming!!! She was HERE! Almost immediately, she was skin-to-skin with me and we had a blanket over us. I just wanted to hold her, have Keith hold me, and go to sleep.

The blood clots were “fun.” I had to have Pitocin and Cytotec after she came out so that I didn’t bleed out. But I had no tears, only “skid-marks.” It still burned a little, but not nearly as bad as tears would I’m sure.

Our Daisy Lynn was born at 10:52 AM, not much more than an hour after we made it to the Birth Center. She weighed 8 pounds, 10 ounces and was 21.5 inches long.

I found out afterward that the cord was wrapped tightly around her neck. The midwife tried to pull it off, but it was way too tight. That’s why I ended up on the bed. I didn’t hear my mom crying on my husband’s shoulder and almost hyperventilating, or her praying out loud. I’m convinced though, that because of her prayers, along with ours and those of our family and friends, God saved my little girl. I am SO very thankful that God saved her. We are SO BLESSED to have her.


By |April 28th, 2013|Birth Stories|1 Comment

Recipe: Blueberry White Chocolate Chip Scones

by Claire C. McKiernan

2 cups of flour (can substitute ½-1 cup whole wheat)
¼ cup sugar
2 tsp baking powder
¼ tsp salt
1/3 cup butter cut into pieces
1 egg
1 tsp vanilla
1/2 cup of milk or buttermilk (need to mold dough with hand, so it shouldn’t be too wet)
½-1 cup fresh or frozen blueberries
¼-½ cup white chocolate chips
(See alternative flavors and health options at the end)
Preheat oven to 375.
Mix all ingredients together, in order shown above, in a large bowl or gently in a mixer. If using a mixer, mix in blueberries and chips with a large spoon or by hand at the end, or with the mixer very gently and for a short period of time so the blueberries aren’t crushed (this is less likely with frozen blueberries).
On a floured surface, use your hands to pat out the dough into a 7-8 inch round, about the size of a pie or cake pan (not thin and large like a pizza). The dough will be about an inch thick. Cut into 6-8 pie wedges, separate, and place on greased cookie sheet. Bake for 18-23 minutes and until lightly browned.
ALTERNATIVE: Pat the dough into a greased cake pan (does not need to meet the edges of the pan, just the shape). Bake for 30 minutes (test the center with a toothpick). Cut into wedges when you are ready to serve. Note, this won’t give the nice crust around all the edges of the wedge like a true scone and will have a more cake-like texture, but it still tastes great!
FLAVOR OPTIONS: instead of blueberries and white chocolate chips, try frozen raspberries (less likely to get crushed than fresh) and chocolate chips, OR raisins and walnuts and ½ tsp cinnamon, OR craisins and lemon zest, or any other flavor combo that suits you (pickles and radishes, anyone?)
HEALTH OPTIONS: Replace a small amount of flour with flax seeds (~2 tsp), wheat germ (~1 tbsp), or almond meal or oatmeal (~1/4 cup).

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A Few Spots Left for September Group Prenatal Care!



Moms with babies due in September: Are you interested in Group Prenatal Care? Good news!  There are still a few spaces available. The deadline to sign up is May 8th.  If we don’t have enough interest by that date, we will have to cancel the group.  If you’d like to join, call us at (919) 933-3301 or let your midwife know at your next appointment.

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Participate in a Study About Midwifery Care


Seeking current and former Birth Center clients to participate in a qualitative study on expectations and experiences of midwifery care. Focus groups will be held on Tuesday, April 30th at 7pm and/or Friday, May 3rd at 7pm at the Birth Center. Refreshments will be served. One-on-one interviews will be scheduled on an individual basis. If you are interested in participating, please email Dr. Aunchalee Palmquist at apalmquist@elon.edu with the following information:
         – Name
         – Phone number
         – Date available (April 30th, May 3rd or both)
         – When did you first become a Birth Center client?

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“Graduates” from WBWC are invited to participate in our New Parent Education Program

     As you know, WBWC is committed to a providing safe and informed birth, as well as preparing young families for the adventure (and challenges) of being a new parent!  To enhance the services we now offer, we have collaborated with Jan Tedder, a nurse practitioner and lactation consultant at UNC Family Medicine Center, to bring us her HUG Your Baby program.  This award-winning program, used in over 100 countries around the world, helps parents understand their baby and prevent and solve problems around a baby’s breastfeeding, sleeping, crying and attachment. (For more information about HUG Your Baby, CLICK HERE.)


In order to provide effective parent education materials, we need to know more about your experiences and needs as new parents.


If you have been a patient at the WBWC and delivered between 9/1/2012 and 3/1/2013 (or there abouts), please CLICK HERE to complete a 10-minute online questionnaire.


As a “Thank You,” we will send you at no cost The Growing Child E-Newsletter (value: $30).  This nationally acclaimed, monthly e-newsletter helps parents understand the normal growth and development of their child (from birth to age five).  Based on the specific age of your child, you receive tips for handling common parenting challenges, games that enhance baby’s learning, and a description of expected changes in the lives of new parents.


Thank you for sharing your feedback so that we can continue to improve the support we offer young families!

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Dragons and Monsters and Ghosts, Oh My!

Tips for Navigating the Fearful Stage


by Claire C. McKiernan


 
“AAAAAAAHHHHHH!!”
This is the sound of a two and a half-year-old running and shrieking down the hallway…at 2 o’clock in the morning.
When I was pregnant with my second child, my first child went through a stage where she routinely woke up in the middle of the night. Oddly enough, her response was not to glance at the clock and think “gee, it’s the middle of the night, I should go back to sleep.” Rather, her response was a full-fledged, top-of-her-lungs, terrified shriek like Sasquatch had just leapt through her window and tapped her on the shoulder. She would come running for me (like I need Sasquatch in my room.)
Waking up in this manner would cause my heart to briefly lodge itself in my throat, and I’m pretty sure for a split second I was levitating with my hair on end (though I never took a video to prove it). Frequently, in an attempt to allow my husband to drift back to sleep, I would waddle-run (yes, it’s possible) to meet her in the hall before she kicked open the partially closed door, banging it against the doorstop.  I would sing to her and rest next to her on her twin-sized bed, until she fell asleep (or, more likely, until I woke up an hour later and dragged my weary self to bed).
 This happened night after night after night, and I wondered what to do and if it was turning my unborn child into a nervous wreck. My only experience with monsters had been in my own childhood bedroom. Fortunately for my parents, the monsters that visited me in the dark could only detect motion.  I would play possum, barely daring to breathe until they wandered away in search of live prey that they would certainly swallow up whole. My parents never knew.


WHY MONSTERS?
One day your child is fine with something (closets, bathrooms, the dark) and the next day…not so much. Could she be expressing fear from some recent trauma? Possibly, but unless you know of something traumatic in her life, chances are it is just her imagination kicking in. It’s a developmental stage (yay!!) that crops up between 2-3 years and may last several years, though the fears may change over time. There can be triggers, so stay attuned to how your child reacts to stories, games, and television shows, even ones that are not meant to be scary or did not bother her before. Her little mind may have made a frightening connection that an adult would never make.


WHAT TO DO
          Conventional wisdom suggests that you calmly reassure your child that monsters are not real. This advice is both rational and useless:


Mother: “Son, monsters do not exist. Darkness is merely the absence of light. Your cerebrum is going through a developmental stage that allows you to envision imaginary circumstances of which you were not formerly capable. Congratulations on reaching this stage. Good night, son.”

 
By all means, show him how shadows work and how they can look menacing even though they are harmless. This can be educational and fun, but if you stop there, you haven’t shown him that you understand his fear.


Mind you, I’m not suggesting that you let loose a war cry and leap into his closet with a saber, emerging moments later victorious and covered with exploded ketchup packets. Creative, but problematic.


Instead, try this:


Connect and empathize: Monsters and ghosts are not real but your child’s fear of them is very real. Think about how many adults have irrational fears (a.k.a. phobias): snakes, spiders, heights, crowds, small spaces, etc.
Let him know that everyone has fears and share some of your own from childhood. Stay away from your current, more realistic fears and show him that you outgrew a fear or two. For instance, you are probably no longer terrified of flying monkeys, even if they still creep you out a bit. (Note: do NOT introduce him to The Wizard of Oz if he is going through a fearful stage.)


Empower: My second child (who turned out to be quite calm, thankfully), also eventually became scared of monsters. I empowered him by lying down in bed with him, each of us holding an imaginary monster sling shot. It became a game to spot the monsters on the walls, by the furniture, windows, etc., and nab them! Occasionally I’d shout “not that one! That’s a GOOD monster!” thus neatly planting a new thought in his head. After a couple minutes, I’d say “You scared them off! They are all running home to their mommies!” which would make him laugh and feel tough. Then, I told him I had fun playing the game and kissed him goodnight. My hope was that this gently impressed upon him that it wasn’t real, without denying his fears. This activity died a natural death after a few months.
You can also use a mister or water bottle filled with anti-monster potion (water). A friend’s daughter is currently having success with lavender scented water. Just note that water-crazy kids can ruin wood furniture, cause mildew growth, or wind up with wet sheets (especially if you hear her repeatedly re-filling the water bottle in the bathroom).
In order to empower her, your child must be involved in these games. If she is trembling under the blanket while you go and hunt down monsters, not only has she remained helpless, but you have only lent credence to the idea that monsters exist (when kids are involved, they seem to “get” that it’s a game). Don’t come crying to me when she hasn’t left the house at age 35 because she still expects you to solve all her real and imagined problems.


Reverse roles: This can come in two forms. Depending on your child’s age and personality (this may work better with the over 4 set), you can tell him that you will be the little kid and he will be the adult. See how he coaches you through your fears. You might learn a thing or two. Assuming nighttime is when the fears come calling, try this first during the day so that he is not overwhelmed.
The second form of role reversal has been playing out in our home for the past six months. Let your child be a monster. My three-year-old, Rosie, is simultaneously excited and scared by monsters. She was a green dragon for Halloween and loved the power/invulnerability of being a monster. She still sometimes wears this costume, roars, and “scares” us, but will also assure us that she is a “good dragon”.
You don’t necessarily need a costume. When we went on vacation, she was scared of a monster, and I gave her a flashlight so we could hunt it down. When we couldn’t find it, I told her it must have been afraid of HER and run home to his mommy, scared of the “Rosie in the dark”. She thought that was a riot and leaned over the dark staircase to roar at the monster and make sure he was super-scared.
         
Beware the Fearless Child
This stage may manifest itself in different ways. My second son, currently 6 years old, never expressed a fear of monsters or ghosts. He has a self-sufficient attitude and works very hard to be accepted as a “big kid” by his two older siblings. The result is that he internalizes his feelings, and I need to be extra-attentive to his reactions to certain things. When disturbed by a story, for instance, he may walk away, referring to it as “stupid” or uninteresting, in a seemingly indifferent manner. True boredom tends to come on gradually, so a sudden disinterest is an indicator to me that he might be nervous or anxious. The questions he asks and the imaginative stories he tells can also contain hidden fears.
     During a private moment, I’ll approach him casually about things I think might be bothering him. A casual approach is non-threatening and doesn’t create a problem where there is none. Sometimes I guess right and sometimes I guess wrong, but he often responds well to these discussions. Kids who are more subtle about their fears can have their needs easily missed, so pay attention.


Fear: It’s a Good Thing
          If early man had never developed a healthy sense of fear he would have been trampled by wooly mammoths, eaten by saber toothed tigers, and been hopelessly trapped in tar bogs to the point of extinction. Developing a sense of fear means your child is actively learning about her environment and the dangers inherent in it.  It is a survival trait. She is becoming more aware that there are things beyond her control and this discovery is understandably frightening (you’re frightened by things beyond your control, too). Frequently, these fears begin to work overtime and manifest themselves in the form of monsters, ghosts, etc. or more realistic fears such as being lost or kidnapped.
Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to help your child through this stage to the best of your ability. I hope I’ve given you a few ideas. Good luck.







 


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WBWC in Need of Gently Used Blankets


Do you have receiving blankets in good shape that your baby doesn’t need any more? Consider donating them to the birth center.  We’re always in need of receiving blankets!  You can drop them off at the front desk any time during business hours.  Thanks for your generosity!

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Why Do People Choose Out-of-Hospital Birth?



Tell us why YOU chose out-of-hospital birth!

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What’s New at the Boutique


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