Monthly Archives: November 2012

New Arrivals

*Kai Alexander Law – 9 lbs., 3 oz. – August 17

*Maja Kharis Miller – 7 lbs., 1 oz. – August 21

*Siena Rose Robson – 9 lbs., 6 oz. – September 7

Ever Bloom Lubenow – 9 lbs., 14 oz. – October 1

Ian Maxwell Cox – 6 lbs., 5 oz. – October 2

Olen Joseph Taylor – 8 lbs., 14 oz. – October 2

Leo Robert Joyce – 7 lbs., 7 oz. – October 3

Abdou Mason Mbaye – 8 lbs. – October 5

Finneas David Reynolds Bartlett – 7 lbs., 4 oz. – October 6

Westley Francis Meints – 7 lbs., 12 oz. – October 7

Nels Eero Swanson – 9 lbs., 8 oz. – October 10

Aadhirai Niranjankumar – 6 lbs., 9 oz. – October 10

Josiah David Butcher – 8 lbs., 9 oz. – October 10

*Neil Smith Wright – 8 lbs., 8 oz. – October 10

*Nariah Janea Freeman – 7 lbs., 15 oz. – October 11

Caroline Hazel Spencer – 6 lbs., 4 oz. – October 12

*Blair Marie Levine – 7 lbs., 6 oz. – October 13

Kaito Achille Deleruyelle – 6 lbs., 14 oz. –  October 14

Aviela Dawson – 10 lbs., 3 oz. – October 16

Philip James Ball – 7 lbs., 8 oz. – October 17

Robert Avery Marron – 8 lbs., 6 oz. – October 17

Julien August Everitt – 7 lbs., 6 oz. – October 19

Emmons Mayer Golub – 8 lbs., 15 oz. – October 22

Sadie Monroe High – 8 lbs., 8 oz. – October 26

*Oliver William Swanson – 8 lbs., 1 oz.- October 26

Darius Zia Damghani – 8 lbs., 2 oz. – October 28

Cailyn Louis Farris – 9 lbs. – October 29

Owen Thomas Patterson – 8 lbs., 15 oz. – October 29

Polly Jean Shelly – 7 lbs., 2 oz. – October 30

Jolie Cate Michaelson – 8 lbs., 3 oz. – October 31

Jahnavi Devi Hill – 9 lbs., 3 oz. – October 31

Elli Faith Bishop – 7 lbs., 10 oz. – October 31

Welcome to the world, Little Ones!

     If you’d like your baby’s birth announced in the next newsletter, send an email to with baby’s name, weight, and date of birth. Feel free to include a photo. We’d like to hear from all WBWC moms, whether your baby was born at the birth center or UNC!

By |November 24th, 2012|News|0 Comments

Birth Story of Lucius Alexander Mealer

by Holly Wengenroth-Mealer

Labor actually started on Friday, 12/29/11. I had light to medium contractions from seven am to nine at night. For most of the day they were thirty to forty seconds long about five min apart. They got more intense as the day went on. We went in for a labor check just to see how my cervix was doing. It was disappointing to hear that at one p.m. my dilation was about the same as it had been the day before. The midwife said that my cervix was quite a bit thinner, but the dilation remained the same.
We went home and the contractions got a little stronger in the evening but didn’t feel progressive. At around seven pm the midwife called back to check in. She said to take some Tylenol PM and go to bed. It will progress or stop but it isn’t in my control and I needed to relax. We went to bed and woke up contraction free on 12/30. Honestly I was quite upset. I felt like I did a ton of labor for nothing. I was really irritated/angry/disappointed.
          We decided that we were just going to ignore it, since it stopped anyway. I went out with my sister and ran some errands. Stephen went to the range with his father. He got home around six and we were getting ready for dinner. (We had a dinner appointment with the whole family that evening; twenty five people…) My water broke! I called the midwife and she said to relax, it could take between 24-72 hours for a first time mom. So Stephen got me some mom diapers and we went to dinner. We got there and I went to sit down. I heard what I read on google described as a distinct popping sound, so I ducked out to the bathroom: blood in my diaper!!! I went out to call the midwife to check in and while on the phone I had the most god awful contraction, EVER! I ran in and grabbed Stephen. I said: We need to leave, now.
          On the phone the midwife had said to call back when my contractions were 3-5 minutes apart for an hour. I remembered Maureen telling me in an appointment: if your water breaks and you start having contractions, I would head right in. So we went home and I got in the tub. The contractions were very strong and from seven (the first one) to eight they were exactly consistent and very strong. I could still talk through them but it was closer to barking than talking. Stephen made me drink a protein shake (we missed dinner) and water. He sat with me by the tub timing contractions on his phone the whole time. He called the midwife back at eight. She seemed hesitant to ask us to come in right now. He had her listen to one of my contractions… I realized that he had the phone out so I made it sound just a hair more dramatic than it was (I knew I needed to go.) At the end of the contraction I said, “Listen, if we don’t leave right now I’m not leaving. We will have the baby here.” The midwife said to head on in.

          We drove there (about 40 min) and I had regular contractions the whole time. We got there around 8:45; Stephen helped me walk in. I walked right through the door by everyone, took off my clothing and got in the shower. They tried to let me know that wasn’t the right room and they would get the water going in my room. I knew any room that had water was the right room so I just got in the shower. Stephen sat with me for a few minutes and then brought everything into the room and got it all set up. Finally they let me get in the tub. I sat in the tub and the contractions continued. They did an exam, but I said I didn’t want to know how dilated I was. I thought it would slow the process and/or freak me out about how long I had to go. Honestly, at this point I was in a state where I couldn’t hear or see anything. It was just contractions and pauses. I do remember Stephen telling me that he loved pizza, a joke from the Bradley class. It was great. He made sure the whole time that I was drinking, remembering that hydration keeps it going.

          All of a sudden I realized my stomach was heaving up in the water and I was pushing! It was about 9:50. After the second push the midwife came in and asked to check my dilation again, because she heard me pushing. She said something to the effect of “Oh wow! You are ready!” Stephen held me up in the water the whole time I was pushing. There was one time they asked me to push and I said no. I remember feeling his head coming and thinking: oh heck… this is not happening!!! But it did and at 10 pm after five or six pushes, 7 lb., 7 oz. Lucius Alexander Mealer more or less came flying out.
I remember them putting him on my tummy and thinking: but I didn’t have transition!!! I didn’t think I couldn’t!!! I didn’t get to ask for meds! I think I was just so in the contractions that I could only breathe and pray. Stephen got to be with me the whole time. It was wonderful. Three hours and a baby! No appreciable tearing, no stitches, no complications. Mommy and Daddy got to snuggle in the bed with him and it was fantastic!!!
          I was ready right afterwards to think about baby number two! We are so glad to have had such a positive experience. It wasn’t frightening or any of the things you are told to expect. We might have lucked out, but we think that knowing what to expect and being educated was a huge part of the positive experience.

By |November 24th, 2012|Birth Stories|1 Comment

Recipe: Paintbrush Cookies

by Rosalind Baglio, boutique manager

1/3 cup softened shortening
1/3 cup sugar
1 large egg
2/3 cup honey
2 ¾ cups flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon salt
½ teaspoon vanilla

Egg Yolk Paint:
1 egg yolk 1/4 teaspoon water
drops of food color

  • Preheat oven to 375F.
  • Roll out dough using a well floured counter top to 1/4″ thickness.
  • Cut into different shapes using cookie cutters.
  • Set on lightly greased baking sheet.
  • Paint designs with egg yolk paints. (Blend egg yolk and water. Divide among several custard cups. Add different food coloring to each cup. Paint designs using small paintbrushes. If egg yolk, thickens while standing, add few drops water.)
  • Bake 8-10 minutes at 375F. Place on brown paper (bags opened up) to cool.
  • For clear colors, do not let cookies brown.


 Every fall my Mother and I would use her set of red plastic Chilton cookie cutters shaped as the twelve days of Christmas to make a slew of these. Manufactured originally in 1978 and boasting “durable plastic” on the packaging the cutters make great “outlines” to follow for little ones and adults alike. 

 I found a set on eBay and gifted them to myself last year. If you search for them they are now considered “vintage”.
 Each cutter one measures 3, 4 or 5 inches so they are the perfect “too large” cookie size. My favorite is the “partridge in a pear tree”. The trick to the batter is to make it the day before, divide into three equal sized dough balls, wrap in saran wrap, and leave in fridge to get really cold over night. While you are cutting out shapes and painting the other dough balls can remain in the fridge. The cold dough is best to work with and seems to burn less in the oven. Crisco brand makes “Butter Flavor Cooking Sticks” that are delicious in this recipe and using a local honey only makes it that much sweeter.

Spread cheer~

By |November 24th, 2012|Recipes|0 Comments

Love that Mommy Body!

by Claire C. McKiernan
Spider veins, muffin tops, stretch marks, loose, stretched out skin, extra weight, all this and more! How come superstar moms don’t have all this? Answer: They do (or did), but they have access to personal chefs, nutritionists, trainers, beauticians, and full-time nannies so they can devote hours a day to their bodies. And when that doesn’t work, they have cosmetic surgery and they still have Photoshop used on many, if not all, the photos you see, which, by the way, have been taken by professional photographers at the right angle and in perfect lighting.
Meanwhile, you, selfish thing that you are, spend your time nursing, cuddling, feeding, rocking, playing, teaching, reading, bathing, dressing, and wiping up spills, runny noses, tears, and adorable but stinky behinds. And when you are waiting at the hair salon to indulge in having your bangs cut for the first time in three months so you don’t resemble an English sheepdog, you pick up a magazine describing a superstar getting her body back two weeks postpartum. She looks amazing! Why can’t I look like that?  (Hint: because you spend more time raising your children, you ninny!) Do you think your kids would prefer a mom who lets them blow raspberries on her pudgy dough-like belly or a sexy mom?
Don’t be so hard on yourself. Every mother goes through this. And just about every mother winces about something that changed on her body. As a mother of four, I can tell you that your body will change in predictable and non-predictable ways. Some changes will be temporary, some permanent, some you’ll get accustomed to and even stop noticing, some things you will actually like, and other things, well, that’s where you need to employ some mind over matter.  
Mind Trick 1: See yourself through the eyes of your partner
  You’re not just a mom, you’re a woman! You want to feel good about yourself and you want to feel attractive to your husband/s.o. Who says that you aren’t attractive? Probably only you. Think about it: at which times do you feel most attracted to/in love with your partner? Chances are, it is after he has done or said something particularly sweet/funny/thoughtful. Your attraction to his physical body is definitely a part of it, but flaws disappear in the eyes of love. He most likely feels the same way.
Mind Trick 2: Laugh
When one WBWC mom was drying her legs after getting out of the shower, her 3-year-old daughter came up and cupped her breast, telling her mom that “it was bouncing around like an old rubber ball.” Writes the mom, “Did she have to say ‘old’ when I was only 28 at the time?!?” The same dear and honest child told her mother that she enjoyed touching her mom’s stretchy, pudgy, post-baby belly because “it is like an amusement park for me.”
Nothing like kids to help you feel young! “I can’t say those comments didn’t sting a little, but you know what? I can shake my head and laugh about them. She’s a really great daughter and turning into a strong woman who will hopefully always love and accept her own body as it changes and matures.”
Mind Trick 3: Smile at other moms
While you are being tough on yourself, you may be thinking that a lot of other moms look pretty darn good. We’re all in the same boat. Be as forgiving of yourself as you are of them. You don’t know what changes they’ve gone through, and chances are, they think you look pretty good, too. Smile at them and you’ve done a service to you both.
Mind Trick 4: Put it in perspective
Your life and your world can change in a second. Appreciate the life you have: in the big scheme of things, do these body changes really matter? If you can hug your child in your arms, hear her laugh, see her smile, than you already have more than some people.
Have you ever looked at a photo of yourself as a teenager and wondered why you didn’t appreciate the body you had back then? Well, when you are 65 you’re going to wonder the same thing about the body you have today. And when you’re 85, are you going to weep over the stretch marks on your breasts? Of course not; they’ll be too wrinkled to even find those stretch marks (har-har)! Time waits for no one, so enjoy all the natural gifts you have while you have them. And when you are 85, I hope you wear your wrinkles with pride!
Mind Trick 5: Believe it, and you’ll be it
You’ve heard it before: the sexiest part of your body is your brain. Look around and you’ll notice that there are women of all shapes and sizes that have sex appeal. Why? Confidence. How do you get some? Give yourself pep talks, do small things with confidence, find a passion and get good at it, remind yourself of all the things that you like about you and let those things glow.
WBWC mom, Elisabeth, wrote in with this great example:

“After the birth of my second child I could RUN FASTER! The very first time I went running post baby I surprised myself by how much quicker I could run — even before training, while still very much in my post baby chubby body. After both babies I trained for half marathons to get my strength back. After my first baby I ran my first half marathon with a 10:12 pace. After my second baby I ran my second half with a 9:36 pace! That’s a huge difference for me, a pace I never imagined running. I told my husband I want to try for a third baby, to see if I can break a 9 min pace!
 I don’t know if I can run faster because something changed physically with my body, or because my second birth was such a life-changing event for me. Although both of my babies were born naturally in birth centers, my second birth shot my confidence through the roof. It was another hard, long labor, thanks to a posterior baby. There were 3 times during labor I broke down in hysterics, knowing I could not birth my child. I was wrong. I could, and I did. After accomplishing something I knew I couldn’t do, I am a much, much, MUCH stronger gal today. So maybe I run faster now because mentally I see my body as stronger…I don’t know!”
Becoming a mother is a very big accomplishment, as is the job of mothering around the clock. Instead of looking in the mirror and harping on what you don’t like, pay attention to what you do like, both inside and out. You still have those great eyes or that adorable pinky toe that curls in funny. Maybe something has even changed for the better. If your hips grew a size or two, do yourself a favor and forget about numbers. Buy the size you need because you will ultimately feel better wearing something that looks good on you than you will squeezing into something that doesn’t. Only you know what size you bought, and you will forget it once you are getting compliments for an outfit that flatters your new (temporary or permanent) body!

Confidence is far-reaching. Writes one mom, “After I gave birth naturally to my first born, I couldn’t believe how confident and strong it made me feel as a woman and as a new mother. That confidence trickled into everything I did. Over the years it has led me to try new things that I never would have tried before, I’m better at recognizing opportunities, making new friends, and my confidence has strengthened my marriage!”
Mind Trick 6: See yourself as a good example
You have a daughter, or a son, or both. If someone had told you beforehand that you would be given this precious baby, but you would never have a flat tummy again, you still would have made the trade. Now, your tummy, or spider veins, or stretch marks, or whatever are your badges of courage. They help tell the story of your life, like the scar on your knee from that downhill– “Look Mom! No hands, no feet!”—bike-riding accident when you were ten.
You are also the most important female role model in your child’s life. Your child deserves to have an imperfect mom who can laugh, accept, and enjoy being herself. It’s all well and good to tell our daughters they are beautiful no matter what, but they know the “truth” based on what we think and say about our own bodies (and they overhear everything). What a wonderful gift to teach your child that you love yourself so that your children will more naturally love their changing bodies and not be so quick to judge the changing bodies of others.
The bottom line is: you are stuck with your body for the rest of your life. I hope you have a long, healthy, and happy life. See yourself as beautiful for your own sake as well as for those around you. Love your mommy body because it is uniquely you!

(My deepest appreciation to the brave souls that shared their stories with me; together we may have boosted a self-image or two! The prequel to this article–“Celebrate Yourself”– was shoved into the “older posts” when it came out last month. To read it, click on my name below.)

By |November 24th, 2012|News|1 Comment

News from the WBWC Board

by Kaaren Haldeman
    Hello from the board! This past month, we have met in committee in order to plan, strategize, and envision our future at the birth center. Our planning committee chair, Jane Brown, and committee members Connie Semans, Brianna Honea, Rebecca Swartz, Bruce Nelson, Maureen Darcey and Lisa Fedele have done a great deal of work in conducting a business review of WBWC. Thank you, committee members for your time and effort in this very important process.
    Have a warm, healthy, and happy holiday season with friends and family!  

By |November 24th, 2012|News|0 Comments

Birth of My Sister!

by Sanjusri Niranjankumar
    Editors note: The following birth story was submitted by the 8-year-old big sister to newborn Aadhirai. 

By |November 24th, 2012|News|0 Comments

WBWC Now Offering Massage and Acupuncture

Come relax and renew your spirit!

Nicole Splenda RN, LMBT and Kim Calandra L.AC
    Massage is a wonderful way to ease the discomforts of pregnancy. It has been used for centuries to improve overall health, reduce stress, and relieve muscle tension. Studies indicate that massage therapy performed during pregnancy can reduce anxiety, decrease symptoms of depression, relieve muscle aches and joint pains, and improve labor outcomes and newborn health.
    Nicole Splenda RN, LMBT specializes in pre- and postnatal massage, aromatherapy, reflexology and labor stimulation massage.  She loves to work on pregnant women, but is also happy to work on non-pregnant family members.
    Kim Calandra L.AC is our new acupuncturist. Acupuncture is a holistic health care system that can treat many conditions, including gynecologic and intra-partum (such as breech presentation, morning sickness, and other common pregnancy related conditions). During your postpartum period, acupuncture can be helpful for depression, mastitis, insufficient or excessive lactation.  Acupuncture is also a great tool for induction of labor.
Gift Certificates Available
at the boutique or call:
 Nicole 919-699-0980 or Kim 919-971-3934

By |November 24th, 2012|News|7 Comments

What’s New at the Boutique

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WBWC October Birthday Party!

    This year’s annual WBWC birthday party was held on October 21, 2012 at the Sertoma Arts Center in Raleigh. We are a 501 (c)3 charitable organization and all contributions to our center are tax deductible to the fullest extent of the law. To make a donation, go to and scroll down to “donate”.
   We enjoyed seeing all those precious babies and want to thank all the wonderful folks who shared in the celebration!

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